Don’t take anything personally which is the second agreement. This agreement is born out of the first agreement. This should be taken as it is said, don’t take anything personally. Whatever happens around you is not personally connected to you. An example, if I see you on the street and I say, “hey, you are so stupid,” without knowing you, it is not about you; it is about me. If you take it personally, then perhaps you believe you are stupid. You take it personally because you agree with whatever was said. As soon as you agree, the poison goes through you and you are trapped. What causes you to be trapped is what we call personal importance.
Personal importance, or taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption that everything is about “us.” We think we are responsible for everything. It is always me, me, me, always me! You should know that nothing other people do is because of you but because of themselves. Everyone lives in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one you live in. When we take things personally we assume they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world. Even if a situation seems so personal, like if someone insults you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds.
When you take things personally, then you feel offended, and your reaction is to defend your beliefs and create conflicts. You make something big out of something small, because you have the need to be right and make everyone else wrong. We also try hard to be right by giving them our own opinions. In the same way, whatever you feel and do is just a projection of your own personal dream, a reflection of your own agreements. It is not important to me what you think about me, and I don’t take what you think personally. No, I don’t take it personally. Whatever you think, whatever you feel, I know is your problem and not my problem. It is the way you see the world. It is noting personal, because you are dealing with yourself, not with me. Others are going to have their own opinion according to their own belief system, so nothing they think about me is really about me but it is about them.
Whatever people do, feel, think, or say, don’t take it personally. If they tell you how wonderful you are, they are not saying that because of you. You know how wonderful you are, they are not saying that because of you. You know you are wonderful. It is not necessary to believe other people who tell you that you are wonderful. Even the opinions you give yourself are not necessarily true; therefore, you don’t need to take whatever you hear in your own mind personally. The mind has the ability to talk to itself, but it is also has the ability to hear information that is available from other realms. The mind can also talk and listen to itself. The mind is divided as your body is divided. Some part of the mind has objections to certain thoughts and actions, and another part supports the actions of the opposing thoughts.
When we take things personally we set ourselves up to suffer for nothing. Humans are addicted to suffering at different levels and to different degrees, and we support each other in maintaining these addictions. Humans agree to help each other suffer. If you have the need to be abused, you will find it easy to be abused by others. Likewise, if you are with people who need to suffer, something in you makes you abuse them. Their addiction to suffering is nothing but an agreement that is reinforced every day. Wherever you go you will find people lying to you, and as your awareness grows, you will notice that you also lie to yourself. Do not expect people to tell you that truth because they also lie to themselves. You have to trust yourself and choose to believe or not to believe what someone says to you. If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you. If that person does not walk away, you will surely endure many years of suffering with him or her. Walking away may hurt for a while, but your heart will eventually heal. Then you can choose what you really want. You will find that you don’t need to trust others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices.
When you make it a strong habit not to take anything personally, you avoid many upsets in your life. Your anger, jealousy, and envy will disappear, and even your sadness will disappear if you don’t take things personally.
Write this agreement on paper, where you can always see it: Don’t take anything personally.
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